4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?
In my daily life I am all dominant. I run my house and the people in it. I don’t want it that way but time and experience has shown that if I don’t do it (or direct it) it does not get done. Whatever “it” may be from picking socks up off the floor to vehicle maintenance – from budgeting to housework. It all falls to me to be sure it gets done.
One of the reasons I revel in my position as a slave is that I am not making all of the choices. I am not providing the structure. I am not laying out the rules. I provide the energy. I provide love and support. I provide opinions and advice when they are requested. I do not have to make every. single. decision. Is being a slave difficult? Yes, without question. Would I trade it for basic submission? No. Not even maybe.
Given how dominant I am in my daily life, it would almost seem natural for me to switch in my BDSM life as well. I have had many conversations with my Master about my ability to Top. I agree that, yes, I probably have the ability. Ability is not equal to desire. I have zero desire to Top anyone in a BDSM context for any reason.