1. From erotica to sex blogs everyone seems to be having intense orgasms. Do you feel like you are experiencing the same intense orgasmic waves everyone talks about?
One person’s “intense” orgasm is someone else’s run of the mill orgasm. It’s all subjective and orgasms tend to be inconsistent in strength/intensity even within the experience of an individual.
2. At the beginning of our sexual lives, we are often let down because it feels like nothing in comparison to what we see in films and magazines. Sexual pleasure is something you learn more about as you get older. How have you learned to cultivate the pleasure that you feel?
Cultivating pleasure. That’s an interesting thought and I’m not at all sure I agree with the concept in this context. As stated in the query, sexual pleasure is something we continue to learn about as we are exposed to it repeatedly, and with different partners. Can this be considered cultivation or is it simply a learning process?
3. In the last 3 years, has your sexual pleasure:
b. stayed the same
c. increased, enhanced, improved
4. If you are feeling much more sexual pleasure than your lover do you feel the need to make up the deficit or just live in the moment and enjoy what has been given to you?
Admittedly, I struggle with this. I am not a “taker” by nature and this scenario feels like taking to me. I deal with it by choosing to believe that it is fun for my partner to provide that level of pleasure and therefore it is pleasurable for both of us.
5. How important is it to you for you and your lover to have simultaneous orgasms?
a. not important – never thought about it
b. somewhat important – I think it would be nice to explode at the same time
c. important – that is what I ‘work’ for, cumming at the same time makes everything more intense–my orgasm, my feelings, the entire experience.
If everyone is having fun it doesn’t matter in the slightest who orgasms when or, get this, if anyone has an orgasm at all.
Bonus: Do you think that having an orgasm is the same as sexual pleasure? Why or why not?
Orgasm =/= sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is a combination of many sensations resulting from intimate contact. It is not limited to or dependent upon orgasm.
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