TMI Tuesday: The Music of Our Lives


Wouldn’t life be more interesting if it was punctuated by background music in certain situations? Yes of course it would!

Below I have given you the situation, you name the background music that should play. Have fun, it’s the soundtrack of your life.

1. When you wake up in the morning.
Chasing Cars – Snow Patrol

2. When you climax during sex.
Oh Yeah – Yello

3. When you urinate.
Once Upon a Potty

4. When you walk into your home after a long day of work.
Working for the Weekend – Loverboy

5. When you take the first sip of your favorite beverage.
Milkshake – Kelis

Bonus: When you are reprimanding your kids or yelling at your significant other.
War – Edwin Star

Bonus, Bonus: When you are having sexual relations.
Anything disco.


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TMI Tuesday: Questions in Consumerism

shut upConsumer purchase behavior is much studied. These questions are about your buying behavior with respect to different products.

1. Name a category for which you are very fussy and only one product will do. Name the product.
I tend to be extremely brand loyal in almost any category. This most applies to hot cocoa as the quality varies widely. This is especially true of packet cocoas made with water. I have found the Land O Lakes variety to be quite tasty and highly dissolvable when made correctly. Their newest caramel flavor rivals Dunkin Donuts. Nuff said.
2. Name a category for which you are fussy about quality and buy top-of-the-line brands.
I tend to be this way about office technology. I’m specifically speaking of ink jet printers. I have two Canon printers. They are both photo quality. One a standard consumer model and one a large format. One is older than 10 years and one older than 7. This is absurd considering most technologies are obsolete in six months time. The older of the two is becoming finicky and the ink difficult to find. I fear I may have to replace her soon. When the time comes, I will not hesitate to replace it with another Canon.
3. Name a category for which you are most interested in price, and will buy whatever brand is cheapest.
Hands down: allergy meds. I look first for the active ingredient, next for price in bulk.
4. Name a category for which you are unable to find a satisfactory product.
Portable brain with total recall and a searchable memory.
5. Name a product that has disappeared from the market for which you have been unable to find a satisfactory substitute.
Chicken Tonight. We used to love the Sweet and Sour sauce. It’s no longer available in the US.
6. Name a product that you buy that your mother or father used to buy.
My mother used to buy instant milk. For the longest time I thought I hated milk. It’s not the milk, it’s the mix. “Magic crystals”, indeed.milk
My Dad used to buy Right Guard deodorant. I still associate the scent with him. rightguard
7. Name a product that you won’t buy because your mother or father used to buy it.
I don’t have anything that applies here.
8. Name a product that is over-rated.
Nutella. I just don’t get it.
9. Name a product that is under-rated.
Entenmann’s Rich Chocolate donuts. Why are these not in every single household?donuts

Bonus: If there was one product that you would re-invent or improve, what is it?
I want a vacuum cleaner with the following features:

  • Light weight. Under 10 pounds would be nice.
  • Steers with little effort
  • Sucks up that little thread on the carpet without going over it 20 or 30 times
  • Has a roller that does not need to be cleaned every freaking time lest it should seize from build up of hair
  • Doesn’t lose suction because it has more than a tablespoon of dust in the bag.
  • Has a retractable hose for doing stairs and furniture
  • Can genuinely go from carpet to hard wood flooring seamlessly and without losing efficacy. (And no, flinging/blowing the dirt from the hardwood to the carpet and/or relocating it to the corners of the room is not the same thing.)
  • All of these features and a price point of between $100-$200

We can put a man on the moon. Can we not design a convenient, well rounded, highly functional vacuum that does not cost as much as the annual economy of a third world country?


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TMI Tuesday: Gettin’ Emo Wit It

emotion faces
  1. Laughter: What makes you laugh?
    Generally speaking I laugh easily. My ace in the hole is Big Bang Theory. It can make me laugh on my worst days.
  2. Anger: This past week, who or what really pissed you off? What happened? I have an adolescent in the house. ‘Nuff said.
  3. Fear: What phobia did you have but overcame?
    I think the term “phobia” is thrown around casually these days, as is the case with so many psychological diagnoses. I have never had a true phobia. I did have an extremely strong fear of gags. Now I tolerate them. I doubt I will ever hold fondness for them.
  4. Surprise: Recently, what unexpected act or behavior did you experience in your sex life?
    <chortling gleefully> Pass
  5. Trust: Many on-going relationships have a certain predictability about them. Does that certainty translate into trust?
    Predictability has nothing whatsoever to do with trust. Someone can be predictably violent, that would not incite trust.
  6. Excitement: Who do you excite? 
    I can’t say that I excite anyone. I might tell a story that has an element of excitement. That’s about as close as I come.

Bonus: What intimate activity do you share with your partner, something that is meaningful to your relationship? For example Sunday breakfast in bed, cooking, maintenance spanking, etc.
The activity varies widely and given that the activities are intimate, this calls for discretion.


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And forget?

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness, not in a religious context mind you, in more of an abstract, philosophical sense. This started because I’m working on forgiving myself for not being the kind of person that I aspired to be, that I thought I was.

The introspection and examination of past mistakes led me to think about observations I have made regarding relationships, both my own and those in my environs. What I have observed is that mistakes are made, harsh words are said as a result of the mistake, and the one committing the transgression is told to move on and/or “get over it”. The transgressor attempts to move on, they might even make decent progress toward forgiving themself for the act. The act is then rehashed occasionally by others affected, dredging up the old feelings, reopening old wounds and undoing all of the “moving on”.

How is the transgressor to heal? Is the objective of the rehashers to make sure the transgressor doesn’t heal? Are the rehashers thinking that the transgressor moving on and/or healing will also lead to forgetting and possibly a recurrence of the act?

I want to believe the best of people. I have to believe the rehashers must have some kind of positive motivation. I have to believe they aren’t simply being cruel. I have to believe their objective is something other than causing the transgressor needless pain.

I know when I make a mistake I feel bad about myself and what I’ve done. The level of how bad I feel is altered by how many people my mistake affected and how much it affected them. If I do something incredibly stupid, no matter how pure my intent, and it affects people I care deeply about, there isn’t a shot in hell I’m going to forget about it. There is even less chance that I will repeat it. I will replay it over and over in my head, working out how I can avoid doing it in the future, thinking about what I should have done instead, what a more appropriate action would have been. How long I take to recover, if I ever do, will depend on how others around me behaved in response to what I did, how grievous I viewed the error to be, and whether there is anything I can do to repair the damage done.

I’m sure there are people that run around willy-nilly acting on a whim, without thought, not caring that their actions affect others, uncaring that their errors are leaving destruction in their wake. I’m also pretty sure that most people don’t feel this way. I’m pretty sure that most people feel the way I do, perhaps not as severely, but at least to some degree.

This then begs the question, why, if the rehashers care for the transgressor, why all the rehashing? Remember the time you did that act? Remember how angry we all were with you? Remember how stupid your action made you appear? and in some cases Remember how bad it made all of us look?

Rehashing and reminding are no more productive than me lying awake at night, thoughts of some error running on a cyclical track of woulda coulda shoulda. It changes nothing. It does not heal. It is not beneficial. It is not productive. It is beating a dead horse. It serves only to resurrect pain.

What is the point? Is there a fear on the part of those affected that forgiving will imply the act was somehow acceptable? How does the transgressor’s self esteem recover when they are repeatedly reminded of mistakes made years ago? How does someone forgive themself when apparently no one else does?

I don’t have answers – only questions.